maybe a calming and optimistic thought regarding meta on masto
We have to think about The Discourse and The Drama the way you would think of any conflict in any relationship. A relationship where you ignore and avoid conflict at all costs is not healthy. A relationship where you dig into conflict and hold onto grudges and issues forever is not healthy either! You don't need to forgive and forget everything; not all relationships work out. However, to stay healthy, learning to deescalate is vital.
Before jumping into someone else's mentions:
✅ Am I being contrarian?
✅ Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar?
✅ Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do?
✅ Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues?
✅ Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed?
✅ Am I providing unsolicited advice?
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