maybe a calming and optimistic thought regarding meta on masto
We have to think about The Discourse and The Drama the way you would think of any conflict in any relationship. A relationship where you ignore and avoid conflict at all costs is not healthy. A relationship where you dig into conflict and hold onto grudges and issues forever is not healthy either! You don't need to forgive and forget everything; not all relationships work out. However, to stay healthy, learning to deescalate is vital.
Before jumping into someone else's mentions:
✅ Am I being contrarian?
✅ Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar?
✅ Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do?
✅ Am I derailing another legitimate discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person in my knowledge of social issues?
✅ Am I saying "Are you surprised?" when they're disappointed?
✅ Am I providing unsolicited advice?
For those of you interested in my birb posting, this lil guy is the Resplendent Quetzal, an important symbol in many South American cultures throughout history. Their feathers were thought to be the symbols of the Aztecs' gods, and they were highly revered birds.
They don't do well in captivity, and honestly after seeing photos of them in flight, it makes it so easy to imagine why so many cultures believes in flying feathered serpents.
yokai for communism now
jonas(ty) aka dj fluff n snuff
dirty 30 gq boi
i may not know your memes but i know how to shut your shit down
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