I've just seen this, a tweet where Ghosting is referred to as a form of gaslighting, and it's getting to me.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse that, used enough, can have real and severe lasting consequences.

Ghosting is the immediate and total severing a relationship, which you might not like and may find difficult to deal with, but you also have no automatic right to people's time or attention.

Misrepresentation of gaslighting is happening a LOT lately.



@sophia god. as someone who has also dealt with a lot of gaslighting (solidarity friend), this is godawful. 9 times out of 10 that I have tried to explain my reasoning and be a "decent person", it ends up in an argument. Which is what I was trying to avoid. In the end, I don't owe anyone an explanation. If I feel my interactions aren't healthy or conducive to my wellbeing, I dont need to damage that more by trying to explain why. God, this is just the worst take.

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@ritualnoise Boundaries are good and it's up to you what boundaries you feel are necessary, why, and how you enact them. It might not be comfortable for others but you have every right to protect your own wellbeing

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